Why Rejection is Good
Updated: Mar 3
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Rejection is not always bad. It could greatly benefit your marriage.
Rejection is mandatory for a great marriage.
Rejection is even included in some traditional wedding vows. “Do you take [Your Spouse’s Name] to be your wedded wife/husband to have and to hold from this day forward, rejecting all others remaining true to him/her as long as you both shall live?”
Rejecting all others highlights the importance of exclusivity in marriage. Your marriage is an exclusive private party for two. Exclusivity is the foundation of marital intimacy.
In basketball, a blocked shot is called a rejection and it’s one of my favorite parts of the game. It’s a violent action; politeness is not required.
When protecting your marriage, please don’t act like you are in a Grey Poupon commercial “pardon me, but I’ll have to respectfully decline your offer to ruin my marriage.”
Exclusivity and intimacy are worth fighting for. Don’t stand by while others threaten your connection and erode your intimacy. Violently reject everything that derails emotional connection with your spouse.
Protecting the union with your spouse is critical for successful marriage. No one should be allowed to interfere with your connection. I have met couples who become disconnected due to interference they allowed from parents, kids, pastors, real-estate agents, and Facebook friends.
Protecting your marriage could be accomplished by simply putting down your phone.
Important tip: Don’t get rejection happy and block your own teammate. 1. Remember you and your spouse are on the same team with the same goal of true intimacy. 2. Work together to identify threats to your connection. 3. Get busy rejecting together. It will Make some Wonderful in your marriage.
What have you rejected to protect your marriage?